My wife and I actually started dating by chance. Both of us were dating other people, and we both went through a harsh break up where our significant others happened to succumb to infidelity, we worked in the same company, so we managed to bond over our experiences and became best friends, then lovers, then spouses.
In a marriage, the love and excitement part lasts a very little time in any relationships. I mean you can’t have excitement all the time am I right? Sometimes you need space, sometimes you argue, and most of the time you sleep. 90% of the time you are fighting to work it through with your spouses. 10% of the time you have the excitement etc.
So this is why it’s very important to make sure you are first and foremost friends before you take the plunge into wedded bliss. We knew each other longer than we have been dating. We have a very good rapport in communication, and we spent a lot of time just enjoying each other’s company before we dated. This built a foundation of trust way before we committed to each other.
It’s very rare for people to be friends before becoming lovers. People are in such a rush to commit to others, they forget that maintaining a long term relationship takes a lot of work, and this is the very reason the divorce rates are pretty high around the world. Everyone has such a short attention span and everything to them is short term, so people actually trying to stick out for the rest of their lives is a sight for sore eyes. Glad I married my best friend. I guess I’m one of the lucky ones.