Help with all your heart. Tania Ivanova

Help with all your heart. Tania Ivanova


Added 12.01.2019

Questions Analysis for January 10

My analysis today is dedicated to helping others and/ or volunteering since this was the prevailing topic in yesterday’s survey.I dare say I can talk as an expert since I’ve gone through a firsthand long-term volunteering experience and learned a ton about helping others. I participated in a 1,5 year long volunteer program in social projects in a developing country. I got my hands dirty in the practical field of the voluntary work and I know this stuff well enough.

No coincidence that I got to the 11th place in the Marathon of Advisors ranking and 1st in the National (thanks to these questions).

So, let’s see how the participants in the survey answered the questions related to volunteering and help.

  1. Helping someone, you do it mostly with all your:

Although “money” (3.66% support) can be a helping factor, it’s not always about giving somebody money in order to help them. Helping is much more of a balancing act between what someone needs and what you can do or give in order for their needs to be met. No matter the particular means, it’s best to do it with all your “heart”, as the majority (55.49%) pointed out, as it also takes a certain level of empathy. Involving your “soul” (17.75% vote) or whole “being” (23.1%) can be too much and goes well into “saving” mode, which is a different thing. You don’t want to play it a savior, right? The person you help still has to do their part and lead, whereas you are in a supporting role.

  1. What makes you help?

“A desire to share your experience” (voted by 18.72%), if you have such, and “a desire to be useful” (54.47%), which is not necessarily connected to personal experience, is the right motivation here. “The need to give pleasure” (19.27%) and “favor” (7.54%) talk about holding on some unhealthy conceptions related to help.

  1. Helping is first and foremost:

The majority (52.1%) got it right here as well choosing to “cooperate”. This can include “troubleshooting” (15.97%) and “advise” (10.36%), but to “sacrifice yourself” (21.57%) goes well beyond helping and right into forming a “victim – savior” type of mentality and relationships, which actually serves nobody.

  1. You volunteer (or would like to volunteer) to help rather:

“In any area of your life” is what I answered as well as 37.13% of Advisors. Most people chose to rather help “friends and family” (43.9%), which for me personally is much more of duty (especially towards family) and not related to voluntarism that much. Anyway, it’s about personal preferences here, so no standard answers apply in this case. 14.09% made their choice by voting for “outside of the work environment in your spare time”, whereas other 4.88% chose “within the framework of professional activity”. Options are limitless actually.

  1. Effective assistance requires:

“Certain knowledge” for sure. 29.95% supported this vision, too. I can only add that I had to take a 6-month training course before going to actually work on a project for another 6 months. You have to know what you’re doing before you even start. You can have as much “dedication” (the choice of the majority – 30.49%) as you want, but if you don’t know your stuff, you just might end up dedicated to a wrong direction, which is not at all effective. I’m not saying dedication is not important, though it really is. However, one should learn how to dedicate themselves in the right way, too. So, knowledge is the key ingredient in regards to effectiveness.

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