What is your response to the troubles at work?
Let's treat ourselves as a friend in a similar situation!
It turned out that self-compassion is useful and beneficial in a variety of situations.
So, the problem: trouble. We either take a defensive position and blame others, or blame ourselves. We can't cope with the problem.
How to solve the problem?
We master self-compassion-we become kinder towards ourselves, remember that mistakes are peculiar to everyone, and we do not dwell on unpleasant moments.
What are the advantages?
Compassion helps to:
- create a mindset focused on growth
- believe that improvement is possible
- strengthen the quest for improvement
In addition, it is easier for a person to live in harmony with himself.
Self-compassion does not imply an assessment of your own personality or anyone’s else. It creates a sense of dignity and a desire to take care of yourself, thereby helping to restore mind peace after failure.
People who are prone to self-compassion have three features:
- they evaluate your failures and mistakes kindly, without judgment
- they understand that failure is part of learning
- their response to their own failures is balanced — you can afford yourself to be upset, but the annoyance should not last long.
Christine Neff, a teacher at the University of Texas at Austin, developed a test to assess the three components of self-compassion.
Characteristic features and types of human behavior were found out with the help of this test.
It was found that people who scored the maximum points in the test, are characterized by a craving for self-improvement and loyalty to himself. Both properties are very useful for a career. They can be developed by practicing self-compassion.
Most of us want to be better, and self-compassion can help. Usually growth is associated with determination, perseverance and hard work, but often the way up begins with reflection.
One of the main conditions is the ability to soberly evaluate the situation, your own strength and shortcomings.
Overestimated self-esteem leads to complacency, and understated one leads to defeatism.