By: Oscar Campos
Many people have the gift of “reading” other people, see people through and people are consistent with what they see in them; this is the subject of this article - how to learn to see what most people think, what the majority feels, what can cause sympathy. How to predict the answers of the majority, understand certain gestures or expressions, to know what they can lead to, to read phrases or associate words.
In fact, every time we interact with something or someone, we should predict most of the things that are happening and will happen, or what causes or reflects this interaction.
The key to this is to use information and experience, it is necessary to find out what is happening, and then rely on your own reasoning and emotions, in order to calculate the situation correctly.
The art of predicting the things that happen in the minds of other people helps us to give comprehensive replies, as well as negotiate successfully and show empathy for those people who surround you. This allows us to see various manipulations, to know when they want to seduce or control our minds. This skill will help us to strengthen our Emotional Intelligence.
According to William Ickes, an expert in the study of empathy, “unfamiliar people can calculate each other with an accuracy of 20%, people familiar to each other - with an accuracy of 35% and almost no one can exceed the 65% mark”, these figures are not surprising, if we take into account the ambiguity of our world and the person himself.
Sometimes we do not want others to know what we feel, because it seems to us that those people who surround us, can hurt us. We live in a world of transmission and reception between our need to be honest, to have relationships or satisfactory results and the need to hide emotions in order to protect ourselves or gain certain privileges.
According to Daniel Siegel, a professor of psychiatry at the California University and the author of the book “Attentive Brain”: “Our ability to read minds is in decline because people spend too much time looking for strictly defined activities for their children, noisy toys, training videos, but spend very little time on communicating with children themselves, who spend more time on computers. Children do not learn to be in harmony with others, neither mentally nor physically”. When we want to read others or interpret something, we must be attentive to his words or pay attention to the body language, facial expression, his eyes and posture. We will receive the necessary information by observing these aspects.
Basically, a person who understands his surroundings and other people, has a high intellect, an open mind and good mental health.
Follow these tips:
- We should be able to look at every life situation objectively.
- We should be observant and follow our instincts, understand our premonitions that make us doubt in the data receiving.
- Every moment lived, every conversation, everything that we read, presentation or feeling is stored in our brain, so that it can provide us with operational information based on our past and our common sense at any time.
- According to Ricardo Rosam, a well-known psychologist and psychotherapist, “There are many people with different IQ levels, including with low ones, who can solve the problems arising in their lives, this is Practical Intelligence. This is what you learn day by day, the formula of which is to: start, do, observe and think - that's the basis of Practical Intelligence”.
Dear friends, this is the secret of “immersion” in words, images, gestures and expressions.